Musings of a set-apart girl.

Sunday, February 6, 2011

When did St. Valentine drop in Ghana?

Valentine day is a few days away.. I do not understand why there is so much hype about this day. For chrissake am in Ghana!! When did Saint Valentine come to this tropical zone and start matching up couples.. Anyways, I have been already to a wedding of a close family friend, have been asked countless times if I had a boyfriend and to crown it all I am part of my church's youth commitee. And, we are organizing a Valentines dinner where everyone can socialize, munch on some tit bits and get advice from young married couples.
Why are girls are made to believe in happy endings? My mum told me that I was a fan of Cinderella and I constantly begged her to buy me princess like dresses. In fairytales, fate always manages to bring two individuals who are destined to be together. But does it really happen in real life?
These past weeks I have been hearing so much of depressing things concerning relationships, from sugar daddies, abortions and women going through all manner of surgeries or medications to enhance their boobs or the buttocks. It's absolutely ridiculous!
African girls should stay true to ourselves we are African queens our culture is different from the west. Our definition of beauty is what we refer to 'coca cola shaped' enough flesh at the right places. We are women of virtue; hardworkers,providers,mothers and sisters. Love doesn't dwell only on the physical it is way more than that. Finally because am less experienced in the relationship/love department am just going to end with a bible verse that sums it all. That's what am expecting from my Mr. Right.
Corinthians 13:4 Love is patient, love is kind, and is not jealous; does not brag and is not arrogant, does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth, bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things,endures all things.

Tuesday, January 25, 2011

Lessons learnt but not from the old...

Gosh! When I started this blog it was my aim to write posts every single day, but now am sorely dissapointed.
2011 has really brought with it so many surprises. I got a partime job helping foreign students settle in Ghana which is pretty much fun and on top of that am helping at my mum's new school. Furthermore, youth meetings need to be attended, choir rehearsals and other mundane tasks like cooking, cleaning etc.
Anyways am not here to discuss my hectic life but talk about something I learnt this week.
From the kids I teach I learnt how to cultivate patience. You know how people keep saying you can learn from anything. So, I thought what could I possibly learn from 3-5 year olds? Nothing academic of course.. we have been reciting the ABC's for a week now but they keep on forgetting. It's so frustrating repeating yourself over and over but then you know through all this agony your leaving an indelible mark which would show in years to come.
Also I realised this week that my world as I know it may be so simple, understanding and kitsch to me but could be another range of ajectives for another person. I sat in a orientation lecture organized for foreign exchange students and it dawned on me that my Ghanaian culture could be described as strict, pre-modern nonetheless friendly to all. It sounded strange at first but I quickly accepted the facts, I am 19, boyfriend less, still have a curfew, my parents are strict no guys allowed to visit at certain times yet I don't see anything wrong because I have become accustomed to it. Ghanaian culture still doesn't accept homosexuality and so do I, women are expected to do most house chores , get married and not end up single mothers. We still view the left hand as the evil hand, so we do not give presents or take them using that hand.
Ghanaians are staunch believers of sorcery , witchcraft and divination and are less enthused at science. But, we are so friendly and I experience it everyday when a market seller gives me more tomatoes than i payed for or some anonymous person pays my bus fare for me with no ulterior motive. From a westerner's view of point we may be pre-modern but I think that's what makes us so unique and heartwarming. I'm going to end this note with a familiar local saying 'Travel and see'. Learn about different cultures you would be amazed! You could end up appreciating your culture more than ever.

Saturday, January 22, 2011

2O Best African Artistes of all times!

Africa has been blessed with great artistes and I want to appreciate them in my own way either dead or alive. So, this is my list of the Best African Musicians. It varies from soul to reggae and some might make you smile or even cry. Enjoy the best of African music by listening to each one of them.

1. Miriam Makeba